As soon as I think I have an original thought or question, my BDSM community comes to show me I am not alone. Others are struggling and dealing with some of the same issues. I am not blazing any trails. I am grateful for that! Loving BDSM podcast with Kayla Lords and John Brownstone never cease to … Continue reading Single and Submissive
What does consent mean to you? Consent is something that allows you to feel comfortable in any situation. Consent is also fluid. Even with the best laid out plans, you can get to a point where your original consent is no longer comfortable or feels safe. I was always worried about consenting to something and … Continue reading Consent
This is interesting for me to think about. I rarely negotiate. I usually go along with the flow and try not to make waves. This comes from my need to make people happy and my fear and disdain of confrontation. When things come up where decisions are to be made I am usually comfortable with … Continue reading Negotiation
Does a submissive have certain Behaviors? Speaking for myself, I have specific behaviors that I now categorize as submissive but this was a late realization. I want to do for people. Make people happy, comfortable, have less stress in their life. I have always been the one to offer to help and rarely understand … Continue reading Submissive
Being submissive was a subtle realization. It started with the realization that I didn’t like sex. I swore it must be something wrong with me because anyone I talked to was having great sex. Couldn’t wait to have sex. I was at the point where I could take it or leave it I usually chose … Continue reading What does Dominance mean to me?