This is an amazing read. Much of how I felt when I started blogging was that I wasn’t worthy of association with these authors that push the limits and write about consensual, kinky, sex in ways I thought I could only imagine. There are community, cliques and making friends in all aspects of our lives. In the kink community, it can be a little more difficult.
In the beginning, I was clueless, I just knew I wanted to write. I also wanted to blog and tweet and do all of those things. Newbies have wonderful mentors and role models. We should reach out and learn and share and laugh and giggle and even share a year or two. I was, at first, (and still am a little bit) afraid of looking like a stalker. So many beautiful stories and ideas. And twitter feels like I moved into a new neighborhood and everyone brought me cake and coffee! I find myself wishing we all lived closer so we could drink coffee together! I too was in need of friends. These people, men, and women helped me through a very unexpected breakup with words of support and love. And the barely knew me.
Being new to anything is hard. I agree it must go both ways. I remember giggly g when one was supporting another and trying to get people to like her page so she could get 700 or 7000 likes on her blog! (I can’t remember the actual number bit she was 7 likes away). I giggled because on that day my blog reached 50 likes! I celebrated quietly with a coffee and thought it would be silly to show my pride in it. But I was wrong.
Thank you for this post. Much needed. I hope we all listen. I can honestly say I have never felt more supported by a community I had just entered. So thank you to everyone!