Can you think of tasks or rituals you already have or some you think you’d like to have that could be incorporated in a current or future D/s relationship?
In my future D/s relationship I do want tasks and rituals. I am that type of person. I want to know what is expected and when it is expected. I am a rule follower and I tend to thrive in those kinds of situations.
In my past relationship, it was complicated by friendship. I was never sure when I arrived to his house if I should kneel at his feet or sit next to him on the couch. Make him drinks or help myself to the frig. We talked about it but never really got any standard rules or routines to it. I never knew. I believe he enjoyed that part of it which is why he never really set anything in place. I also believe at times he just didn’t feel like being a Dom.
I am nervous about submission now. I am afraid I will be in the same place again so I’m trying to set up strategic ways that I can protect myself. Of course you want to start as friends, but then will I be in the same place again?
I enjoy doing for others. I enjoy not questioning what is expected of me. I also very much enjoy being respected as a submissive.
I would enjoy having dinner planned if not ready if I am home first. I would enjoy doing small tasks for someone who they do not have time to do. Opening mail and sorting the important from the junk. Knowing what kind of whiskey they like and always having that at my house so they can feel comfortable when they come over. I would also enjoy knowing that I will get rewarded or compensated for the things I do.
Cloudy mind right now, so who knows what anything will look like later. Maybe some day. I do believe that knowing what I don’t want is just as important as knowing what I do want. I’m nervous about getting into any relationship right now. What if everything I thought I wanted was just wrapped up in him?
Thoughts provoked by Loving BDSM