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Double Penetration

Double penetration is something that I  fantasized about.  In the porn I watch to get off there is usually some form of DP or gang sex represented.  When I first started thinking about it I felt bad for admitting that it excited me.  I wasn't sure if I wanted the experience with two men or … Continue reading Double Penetration

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Spilled Liquor

The corner of my dining room is where I keep my alcohol.  Dusting the other day I looked up and realized that each of these bottles has a direct connection with people I have fallen in love with.  I was never a big drinker and actually, still, I am not.  I enjoy a good drink but … Continue reading Spilled Liquor

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A letter of thanks from the light you brought out in me.

  Connecting emotions one breath at a time.  I have always been big on letters.  Perhaps it is the writer in me, I always find it easier to express myself in writing letters, poems, songs, and now I guess even blogs and books.  I have many things to say to my Ex, but as I … Continue reading A letter of thanks from the light you brought out in me.

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Eroticon UK 2019 – Virtual Meet and Great!

I will start by saying that I can't express how excited (and nervous) I am about Eroticon!  It was a very impulsive decision to register, gather the funds for travel and hotel, and take the time off work, even though I thought about it for months!  The impulse came after reading everyone else talk about … Continue reading Eroticon UK 2019 – Virtual Meet and Great!

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February Photofest 2019 – Day 28!

  The last day of February Photofest 2019.  This was an amazing experience for me.  I have to admit I was terrified and had no idea if I would survive, or even finish it.  I wouldn't have seen this through the 28 days without the support of this amazing community!  More than the experience of … Continue reading February Photofest 2019 – Day 28!

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February Photofest 2019 – Day 27 – Curves

  February Photofest shows my curves!  Curves... carefully disguised but I know they are there.  I'm kind of liking the curve of my ass in this picture though!  I have to laugh at this because I took a million pictures in this corset.  I love it.  The other half is black.  My two favorite colors … Continue reading February Photofest 2019 – Day 27 – Curves

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February Photofest 2019 – Day 26 – No Filter

    February Photofest 2019 - Day 26.  No filter... even decided NOT to crop out those little rolls of what is that...  Thigh spread?  My ass pushing away from the mattress?  Hmmm, I really don't care.  I love this bodysuit and I NEVER get a chance to wear it.  It is soft and comfy … Continue reading February Photofest 2019 – Day 26 – No Filter

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February Photofest 2019 – Day 25

Fear Everything is just fine, she smiles. At work, she maintains her professional status, arriving on time and making every meeting and deadline. At home, she cooks and cleans and takes care of her family.  She smiles and chats with the neighbors. She pays her bills when she can, she works extra if she has to … Continue reading February Photofest 2019 – Day 25

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February Photofest 2019 – Day 24-comfy clothes

Bottom line, I love my comfy clothes.  I spent some time tonight taking some pictures for the remainder of February Photofest 2019.  I pulled out some corsets and some outfits that I have to get in some kind of mood other than the one I was in.  It has been a day and I'm just … Continue reading February Photofest 2019 – Day 24-comfy clothes

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February Photofest 2019 – Day 23

There was a lot of discussion about photos that we post and how they are viewed, porn or art.  This is something that has always been a question in my mind.  After ready Molly Moore's - My cunt is art post and also Brigit Delaney's - My most naked reflection I was moved and inspired to post my … Continue reading February Photofest 2019 – Day 23

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February Photofest 2019 – Day 21

  Taking pictures of myself for February Photofest 2019 has been fun and challenging and has for the past 21 days had me thinking or rethinking my perspective on my body and my sensuality.  Today, I couldn't post anything I had taken because they all seemed too revealing, or I wasn't comfortable with what I … Continue reading February Photofest 2019 – Day 21

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“So, what are you in to?” (Part 1)

    After my break up in early August, I was lost.  Few breakups leave you feeling great but when you were not the one that wanted the change, it is incredibly difficult.  I have written about it, tried to verbalize it many times and I still feel like I haven't quite articulated how it … Continue reading “So, what are you in to?” (Part 1)

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“So what are you into?” (Part 2)

Find part one here - So What Are You In To - Part 1 It is such a casual question.  What are you in to?  I'm from the country so we don't worry so much about grammar when we are chatting.  That question could apply to anything from food to hobbies, but I instantly knew … Continue reading “So what are you into?” (Part 2)

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Self-Care and All That Stuff

New Years and birthdays tend to be the days we evaluate or re-evaluate our shit.  Life, love, relationships, family, work, profession, hobbies, plans, parenting, future, etc.  We set goals that may or may not be obtained, work toward something in some way to make those goals happen or at least get closer to them.  Making … Continue reading Self-Care and All That Stuff

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February Photofest 2019 – Day 10

Sometimes you have to take matters into your own hands!  Although it isn't at all the same as having it done to me, I have to admit I enjoyed feeling the familiar sting and seeing the marks I was able to make.  This was new to me.  This Delrin Cane actually lends itself to self-use, … Continue reading February Photofest 2019 – Day 10

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February Photofest 2019 – Day 6

An oldie but I think a goodie!  This picture was the inspiration for my guest post story on Kaylalords.com   This was one of the first pictures that Sir ever took of me while we were together.  (We have one picture of us together that is suitable for all audiences.  Funny enough, we are drinking coffee!). This … Continue reading February Photofest 2019 – Day 6

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Why is something that is suppose to be good for you such a chore?

Ugh!  The gym.  Why is something that is supposed to be good for you such a chore?  She has heard that if you do something for 30 days it becomes a habit.  She can eat pizza every day for 30 days, instant habit.  She has been going to the gym for over six months, not … Continue reading Why is something that is suppose to be good for you such a chore?

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Influence from other blogs, podcasts, books, etc.

When I started this blog I wasn't sure what I wanted it to be.  I knew I wanted to start getting my writing out there, somewhere but wasn't sure what to do with it.   It was a previous Dom that suggested I write smutty things.  He knew I loved to write about all different things.  … Continue reading Influence from other blogs, podcasts, books, etc.

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Blocked

She stared at the screen.  Nothing.  Absolutely nothing.  No thoughts.  No ideas.  Blocked.  Nothing.  The hum of the neighborhood activity was subtle but noticeable.  Maybe that was the problem.  She walked across the room and switched on the fan.  It wasn't warm inside.  It was the perfect temperature.  October finally brought the cooler weather.  The … Continue reading Blocked

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Community, Cliques and Making Friends

via Community, Cliques and Making Friends.   This is an amazing read.  Much of how I felt when I started blogging was that I wasn't worthy of association with these authors that push the limits and write about consensual, kinky,  sex in ways I thought I could only imagine.  There are community, cliques and making … Continue reading Community, Cliques and Making Friends

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This would not be any Different

She slowly accepted the truth.  What she thought was the truth, guessed to be the truth.  He said to move on that he was done.  She is a follower of rules.  His rules.   She always followed and obeyed his wishes.  This would not be any different. She responded to a text from someone who was … Continue reading This would not be any Different

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Parenting – How do you make your D/s work while raising kids?

If you’re a parent, today is a day to think about how you make your D/s work while raising kids. And if you’re not a parent yet, imagine how you might handle things if you have children. This is funny to me.  When my daughter was growing up I was very vanilla.  Her dad and … Continue reading Parenting – How do you make your D/s work while raising kids?

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When a D/s relationship ends…

This was today's thought-provoking email.  I don't know how to respond to this one.  On Monday, my Sir told me we were through.  I made a mistake.  A big one.  He responded with the heat and temper I had witnessed but it was never directed at me.  Through text, he told me I was manipulative … Continue reading When a D/s relationship ends…

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Long Distance Relationships

Long distance relationships, trips without your partner, simply not living together - it all adds up to one thing: being D/s even when you’re not together. The solution you find for your relationship will be specific to you and to your circumstances, but if you’re already living through a long-distance relationship or you think you … Continue reading Long Distance Relationships

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Introducing D/s into your vanilla relationship

How did you introduce D/s into your vanilla relationship?  What worked and what didn’t? Ugh!  Let’s start with what didn’t.  My first long-term relationship was with my now ex-husband.  We never talked about sex, we never communicated what was good and what wasn’t.  We never really joked around or teased each other and there was … Continue reading Introducing D/s into your vanilla relationship

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Negative Emotions

How do you handle negative emotions like anger, jealousy, and fear now? My past four years have been nothing but negative emotions honestly.  My daughter’s addiction to heroin was revealed in December of 2014.  2015, getting her clean.  2016, keeping her clean and healthy.  2017, still working on getting my daughter on track, the end … Continue reading Negative Emotions

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What does Dominance mean to me?

Being submissive was a subtle realization.  It started with the realization that I didn’t like sex.  I swore it must be something wrong with me because anyone I talked to was having great sex.  Couldn’t wait to have sex.  I was at the point where I could take it or leave it I usually chose … Continue reading What does Dominance mean to me?