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She likes this… She doesn’t like this.

He is nice.  He is quiet.  He has a cute, hidden sense of humor that comes out only after you know him.  She likes this. He loves dogs, has two of them.  He takes his dogs everywhere with him.  She likes this. He spends a lot of time with his family.  Visits his parents and … Continue reading She likes this… She doesn’t like this.

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And… a slightly new look… again!

Well, I saw a thread on twitter about plugins and WordPress and I freaked out because I had no idea what any of that meant.   Thankfully, listening to @thesumtlancer and KaylaLords * A sexual Being I reached out to @DomSigns to find the thread where he was giving instruction.  That lead to pretty much an afternoon of tech support far and above … Continue reading And… a slightly new look… again!

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Consent

I know that I have commented on this before.  I think we have all blogged or tweeted about this in one fashion or another.  I have responded to comments and worked through other's post and blogs but felt I needed to delve a little deeper on the subject. I have experienced sex without consent.  Looking … Continue reading Consent

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Blocked

She stared at the screen.  Nothing.  Absolutely nothing.  No thoughts.  No ideas.  Nothing.  The hum of the neighborhood activity was subtle but noticeable.  Maybe that was the problem.  She walked across the room and switched on the fan.  It wasn't warm inside.  It was the perfect temperature.  October finally brought the cooler weather.  The neighborhood … Continue reading Blocked

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Community, Cliques and Making Friends

via Community, Cliques and Making Friends.   This is an amazing read.  Much if how I felt when I started blogging was that I wasn't worthy of association with these authors that push the limits and write about consensual, kinky,  sex in ways I thought I could only imagine. In the beginning, I was clueless, … Continue reading Community, Cliques and Making Friends

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Long Distance Relationships

Long distance relationships, trips without your partner, simply not living together - it all adds up to one thing: being D/s even when you’re not together. The solution you find for your relationship will be specific to you and to your circumstances, but if you’re already living through a long-distance relationship or you think you … Continue reading Long Distance Relationships

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Introducing D/s into your vanilla relationship

How did you introduce D/s into your vanilla relationship?  What worked and what didn’t? Ugh!  Let’s start with what didn’t.  My first long term relationship was with my now ex-husband.  We never talked about sex, we never communicated what was good and what wasn’t.  We never really joked around or teased each other and there … Continue reading Introducing D/s into your vanilla relationship

Beach lessons – Sunday morning thoughts

I didn't bring the laptop this weekend and hate publishing from my phone but some thoughts can't wait. I wanted a tech-free weekend with no responsibilities. The beach has always been my healing reflective place. My therapy. Younger me always thought I had to be on the beach tanning to get that. My older self … Continue reading Beach lessons – Sunday morning thoughts