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Why is something that is suppose to be good for you such a chore?

Ugh!  The gym.  Why is something that is supposed to be good for you such a chore?  She has heard that if you do something for 30 days it becomes a habit.  She can eat pizza every day for 30 days, instant habit.  She has been going to the gym for over six months, not … Continue reading Why is something that is suppose to be good for you such a chore?

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And… a slightly new look… again!

Well, I saw a thread on twitter about plugins and WordPress and I freaked out because I had no idea what any of that meant.   Thankfully, listening to @thesumtlancer and KaylaLords * A sexual Being I reached out to @DomSigns to find the thread where he was giving instruction.  That lead to pretty much an afternoon of tech support far and above … Continue reading And… a slightly new look… again!

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Influence from other blogs, podcasts, books, etc.

When I started this blog I wasn't sure what I wanted it to be.  I knew I wanted to start getting my writing out there, somewhere but wasn't sure what to do with it.   It was a previous Dom that suggested I write smutty things.  He knew I loved to write about all different things.  … Continue reading Influence from other blogs, podcasts, books, etc.

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Blocked

She stared at the screen.  Nothing.  Absolutely nothing.  No thoughts.  No ideas.  Nothing.  The hum of the neighborhood activity was subtle but noticeable.  Maybe that was the problem.  She walked across the room and switched on the fan.  It wasn't warm inside.  It was the perfect temperature.  October finally brought the cooler weather.  The neighborhood … Continue reading Blocked

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I’m in love with your potential

Sometimes it is a statement that you hear randomly throughout the day. Sometimes, it is an original thought. Today, it was a song lyric. Driving to a wedding that I was very happy about but still sad and maybe even a little bitter at my own situation, I had the radio low. Through the traffic … Continue reading I’m in love with your potential

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Community, Cliques and Making Friends

via Community, Cliques and Making Friends.   This is an amazing read.  Much of how I felt when I started blogging was that I wasn't worthy of association with these authors that push the limits and write about consensual, kinky,  sex in ways I thought I could only imagine. In the beginning, I was clueless, … Continue reading Community, Cliques and Making Friends

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This would not be any Different

She slowly accepted the truth.  What she thought was the truth, guessed to be the truth.  He said to move on that he was done.  She is a follower of rules.  His rules.   She always followed and obeyed his wishes.  This would not be any different. She responded to a text from someone who was … Continue reading This would not be any Different

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Parenting – How do you make your D/s work while raising kids?

If you’re a parent, today is a day to think about how you make your D/s work while raising kids. And if you’re not a parent yet, imagine how you might handle things if you have children. This is funny to me.  When my daughter was growing up I was very vanilla.  Her dad and … Continue reading Parenting – How do you make your D/s work while raising kids?

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When a D/s relationship ends…

This was today's thought-provoking email.  I don't know how to respond to this one.  On Monday, my Sir told me we were through.  I made a mistake.  A big one.  He responded with the heat and temper I had witnessed but it was never directed at me.  Through text he told me I was manipulative … Continue reading When a D/s relationship ends…

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Sub Frenzy

You might have never heard of subfrenzy and still experienced it whether as the submissive or a Dominant. It’s a moment that happens for new submissives or submissives in new relationships where they get a little intense about their submission, sometimes to the detriment of their own safety. It can be overwhelming in healthy relationships … Continue reading Sub Frenzy

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Long Distance Relationships

Long distance relationships, trips without your partner, simply not living together - it all adds up to one thing: being D/s even when you’re not together. The solution you find for your relationship will be specific to you and to your circumstances, but if you’re already living through a long-distance relationship or you think you … Continue reading Long Distance Relationships

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Introducing D/s into your vanilla relationship

How did you introduce D/s into your vanilla relationship?  What worked and what didn’t? Ugh!  Let’s start with what didn’t.  My first long-term relationship was with my now ex-husband.  We never talked about sex, we never communicated what was good and what wasn’t.  We never really joked around or teased each other and there was … Continue reading Introducing D/s into your vanilla relationship

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Negative Emotions

How do you handle negative emotions like anger, jealousy, and fear now? My past four years have been nothing but negative emotions honestly.  My daughter’s addiction to heroin was revealed in December of 2014.  2015, getting her clean.  2016, keeping her clean and healthy.  2017, still working on getting my daughter on track, the end … Continue reading Negative Emotions

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What does Dominance mean to me?

Being submissive was a subtle realization.  It started with the realization that I didn’t like sex.  I swore it must be something wrong with me because anyone I talked to was having great sex.  Couldn’t wait to have sex.  I was at the point where I could take it or leave it I usually chose … Continue reading What does Dominance mean to me?